April 28, 2011
What’s in a Friend?
Around the age of twenty, while in that awkward stage of life between teenager and adult, I started to evaluate my friendships with people. I began to realize that some of the people I had known for years, and considered friends, might not be true friends. It was then I decided to step back and look deeper into my relationships with others. After several days of self-evaluation and soul-searching, I discovered exactly what I expect out of a friendship. The first realization I came to was that friends are more than people I may occasionally see in passing, or at social events. Although these people may be friendly and fun to be around, I consider them acquaintances, not friends. Unlike an acquaintance, a friend is someone with whom I genuinely enjoy being around and can call upon other than just when a favor is needed. Real friends know one another’s birthday, favorite color, pets’ names, parents’ names, etc. True friends will do whatever is necessary to ensure they are involved in each other’s lives. Accordingly, in order to call somebody a friend, I must genuinely care about that person. Being in a friendship requires much time and attention, and caring about the other person is imperative. For example, a friendship between two women may be different than a friendship between a man and a woman. In either case, both relationships call for a mutual respect, love, and ingenuous feelings. Without these deep emotions involved, a friendship is sure to fail. With that said, friendships do take time to develop and may not happen instantly. As humans, we have a natural instinct to protect our own feelings and emotions, sometimes resulting in difficulty letting new people into our lives. On the other hand, there are certain times in life when you meet someone and automatically know a close friendship will develop. Another imperative aspect of friendship is the ability to have trust in...