I believe that, in most ways, we are fully responsible for our own happiness and well-being. I believe that happiness comes with the knowledge that our mood is completely and utterly in our own hands. You aren’t responsible for anyone else’s happiness, just as much as they aren’t responsible for yours. Accepting that you are responsible for your own happiness and understanding that your happiness is in your hands alone will make both you and your friend happier. This is why I disagree that I am responsible for my friend’s well-being and happiness.
However, this doesn’t mean that we should mistreat our friends. Even though her happiness isn’t my responsibility alone, it doesn’t mean that I don’t contribute to it. If one day I were to treat my closest friend like I treat my dirty laundry, I am sure that it would affect her mood, one way or another. Moreover, believing that your best friend is responsible for your happiness puts a lot of pressure on both you and your friend. I remember all the moments wherein I blamed my best friend for my sadness and anger. If it wasn’t me forgetting her birthday, it would be her making me somber with her bad mood. It is all in how you react to each situation presented to you. It is in your control to decide how you react to certain situations and how you feel after them.
For example, three years ago, my best friend invited me to her house in France for her thirteenth birthday. She assured me that it would be fine for me to come without my parents because I could sleep at her house. When I arrived she was surrounded by all of her friends, of which I knew none. She quickly said hello to me and then returned to her other friends, who she didn’t bother to introduce me to. Needless to say I was ignored all day. I was incredibly sad and homesick.
This is why it is important to not misunderstand what I am attempting to claim. I am not trying to say that if your best friend...