Friends with Benefits
Can friendship survive sex? This is a question that has plundered the minds of mankind. Sometimes it can be easy to fall for a friend or to have strong emotions for them. This question is significant because people need to know whether sex will benefit or hinder their friendship. They also need to know the value of themselves and their friendship. Sex brings so many different complications in one’s life. I believe that sex in a friendship is acceptable as long as both parties have the same vision in mind. It cannot be one-sided. Both parties have to be willing to give or take from their friendship. This can be a problem because one may want one thing that the other doesn’t want or they may agree at the time only to have complications later. Two friends understand each other and they know each other’s likes and dislikes. This means pleasing each other is easier. A friendship cannot survive sex. Sex should not be included in a friendship unless it is converted into a meaningful relationship. First, a friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. Someone who cares, supports, and understands. A friend is always there to give good solid advice and is there to accept a person for who they are, even flaws. If one have a friend that is this supportive of them, then it would be easy to gain deep internal feelings for him/her. Friends decide to have sex because of three reasons: sex is easily available; they decide no consequences (no strings attached), and it’s just something to do to pass the time. According to Eileen Smith, she believes that “Friends-with-benefits relationships are far more complicated than they are worth” (Smith). Friends who become intimate risk more than just their bodies, but they also set themselves up for a world of hurt. Sex is a complicated subject. It brings on a lot of emotions that may or may not be real. Some people love because of emotions and others love...
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