If you knew me, then you would know how much I care for the simple philosophy of “The Four Agreements”. The book was pointed out to me a couple of years ago [Fall, 2003] by a good friend of mine while we were browsing a book store. It was the first *fun* book I’d read since beginning alcoholic recovery in January 2003 and it changed my life. The Four Agreements started me on a spiritual journey that would lead me into today, renouncing openly, the world and its rules. The rules that kept me sick and suffering. The rules that kept just about everyone I know ping-ponging their anger and disdain for one another out in the open by means of sarcasm or spiteful speech. The rules that, quite frankly, enabled me to stay drunk without ever really thinking of a good reason to not stay that way. So clearly when I got sober in January 2003 I still had this world’s mitote to deal with and, staying drunk more or less for 15 years I had developed no sort of spiritual growth in any direction. This book and its views were like coming home. Starting this book and while reading it it was as if all the world’s puke-colored gauzy curtains fell from my eyes and I was able to see with such clarity and light that I WAS a free person. That it was mine for the taking if I just understood and worked on applying these four agreements in my life. A side note I must mention out of necessity: I am a “member” of an “anonymous” organization that helps people with their alcohol problem. There are 12 steps this organization believes that, when taken, can relieve a person of the obsession to drink. I want to make it clear that the fellowship of this organization and the 12 steps is what got me sober. [Sobriety Date: January 04, 2003] Period. I want to make it clear this organization’s philosophy on alcoholism is how it was I came to be reintroduced to my spirituality which dispelled my obsession/need to drink alcohol. BECAUSE I was sober is how I believe my spirit led me to The Four Agreements. [I say this for anyone who may be drunk/high now who are expecting this book to fix them. This book, in my opinion, is for those who have the clarity that only not drinking or using drugs can provide and it took, for me, several months - and working the 12 steps until step 11- for my mind to get clear enough to know I desired more spiritual understanding and sustenance.] The Four Agreements: Don Miguel Ruiz
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. When I gossip about other people I feel badly. When I curse someone I feel badly. When I call someone a name behind their back - deserved or not - I feel badly. When I talk badly about myself or call myself names I feel badly. When I am silent in the middle of racist jokes, sarcastic remarks or caustic conversations, I am not being impeccable with my word. When I lie, exaggerate or dramaticize a truth or an event, it’s no longer a truthful expression, but a lie. I am no longer bringing who I am to the conversation; no longer contributing myself to the world. If I continually bring lies in or drama or use my word/s to spread chaos and malcontent I am perpetuating the mitote [the dream/the lies of the world that say this is normal or okay] and spreading disharmony. It reinforces the poison within the world and keeps me poisoned. 2. Don’t Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. If I take it personally that you love my hair, my face, my body and my personality then a few things may happen: My ego may come in - which kills my spirit, and/or I may look to you as then the source of my sustenance, and/or when all of a sudden you don’t compliment my hair, my...
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