* Resource: Appendix A
* Create an 8- to 10-slide Microsoft® PowerPoint® presentation in which you summarize each of the topics you have chosen and outline how you may implement what you have learned about these topics into your life.
* Include detailed speaker notes.
* Format your presentation according to APA standards.
* Post your presentation as an attachment.
* During this week, you will add the future time period to your Microsoft® PowerPoint® presentation portfolio. Choose any three of the following major topics from the course:
Social attachments are important to our personal happiness and have enabled our survival as a species. Our interactions with our first caregivers yield different attachment styles: secure, avoidant, or anxious. The emotional bonds formed early in life lay the foundation for later love relationships. Childhood attachments and adult romantic attachments are marked by physical closeness, caring, and longterm commitment. Both nature and nurture are crucial factors in shaping attachment style, and our patterns of relating can change.
Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory identifies passion, intimacy, and commitment as the key components of love. Various combinations of these factors may yield different types of love. The key ingredients of romantic love are passion and intimacy. Although men and women express somewhat different mate preferences, they identify mutual attraction to be the most important factor in choosing a romantic partner. Hatfield’s two-factor theory suggests that we are likely to interpret physiological arousal that occurs in a romantic context as passion. Intimacy is fostered by mutual self-disclosure.
Companionate love, the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are intertwined, combines intimacy with commitment. Such commitment leads partners to think of themselves as “we” and enables people to endure times of high cost and low rewards in a relationship. Long-term commitment is fueled by equity in which outcomes are proportional to investments.
0 The minding theory of relationships states that building knowledge about our partners, respecting differences in habits and values, and making favorable attributions for their behavior builds lasting bonds. Carving out time to talk, handling conflict constructively, expressing admiration, practicing affection, creating shared meaning, and modeling Michelangelo are additional strategies for fostering a consummate love of passion, intimacy, and commitment.
C H10:33 AM Page 39 As infants we survive only if an adult is willing to meet our basic needs. Early in life we form bonds with our caregivers. “Love begins at the beginning,” suggests Deborah Blum (2002); “perhaps no one does it better, or needs it more, than a child” (p. 170).
Our most important first question is: Can I count on my caregiver to be available and responsive when needed? There are three possible responses to the question: yes, no, and maybe (Hazan & Shaver, 1994). Thinking back to your own childhood, how would you answer?
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Read the following three paragraphs and select the one that best describes your relationship with your mother when you were a child growing up. Then select the one that best describes your relationship with your father.
1. Warm/Responsive—She/he was generally warm and responsive. She/he was good at knowing when to be supportive and when to let me operate on my own. Our relationship was always comfortable, and I have no major reservations or complaints about it.
2. Cold/Rejecting—She/he was fairly cold and distant or rejecting, not very responsive. I wasn’t her/his highest priority; her/his concerns were...