Most people do not like to think about facing their own mortality. However, it is a reality. We will all die, though we do not know the time or place. I found the Five Wishes very intriguing. I do not think I ever considered my own death until after I became a parent three years ago. As my responsibilities have grown, I see more of the bigger picture of my life. I would not want the burden to be placed on my child or other loved ones to make decisions regarding my final moments, if I could not voice them for myself.
The first two of the Five Wishes deal with who I would want to voice my health care decisions if I were unable to make them for myself, as well as what medical treatments I would want. I feel that my husband knows my desires as well as anyone could, and he would make the decisions the closest to how I would want them to be made. He has all rights to sign any/all forms and mediate with doctors on treatment and care. I have a “Do Not Resuscitate” request, which I will fill out on a form to have a doctor sign. I believe that when it is my time, I want to go home to be with the Lord. The next three wishes focus on my personal, spiritual and also emotional wishes. The health care professionals have my permission to keep me from being in a lot of pain, even if it means that I am sleeping or more incoherent than normal. I wish to be treated with dignity. My final and greatest wish is for my friends and family to know how much I love them, and that my faith says that death is not the end for me. I want them to have comfort in my final moments that I am going to Heaven when I die. My husband will be made aware of my funeral wishes, and I trust him to see those carried out for me. In conclusion, the Five Wishes certainly gave me a lot to think about. I plan to sit down with my family and have all of us complete a Five Wishes form.
Aging with Dignity. (2010)....