Through learning,the systemic approach resonated with me as I realized that I did not exist in isolation but rather as part of a context, a system. Growing up in my family seemed relatively ‘normal’to me, but then again, every family is different so I suppose there isn’t a definition of normal in that sense. For the purposes of this essay, I wlll focus on my immediate family. Although I am one of 2 biological children,my mother had the misfortune of having stillborn twins in between us. This essay aims to discuss my family and the dynamics within. It will provide a brief introduction of the members,their respective ages and roles. it will then identify the type of family i am a part of,discuss the functions,roles and responsibilities of ech member, identify 3 healthy elements as well as three unhealthy elements,identifying one negative characterisitc which is directly inflenced by one of these three unhealthy elements and lastly it will provide my opinion on my family’s functionaliy considering health and dynamics. It will debate whether we need therapy and provide insight into why I believe there is hope.
2.My family Members
I was born on the 1st of December 1988 at the Parklane Clinic. I am 24 years old and currently work at Impilo-Child Protection and Adoption Sevices and I am in my 3rd year of Social work at the University of Johannesburg. I was not like Adam,created from dust but from 2 people already living,my mother and father. My mother ,Laura was born on 13 April 1955 at the Oxford Maternity home in Emmarentia in Johannesburg. My mother is now 58 years old but has the same energy and mind set of someone half her age. She’s a book keeper by profession and has been at the same company for over 20 years. She is my pillar and has been instrumental in my upbringing. A more loyal and dedicated mother would be hard to find. She has a wonderful circle of friends who have been an incredible support system. She enjoys playing bowls as a hobby. She has done the most amazing job of raising us with the right morals and has taught us appreciation for everything in life. My Father, Allen was born on the 26th of January 1952 at the Queen Victoria hospital in Johannesburg. He is now is 61 years old and a manufacturer of burglar bars.He enjoys the outdoors and has qualified as a master scuba diver. He does not play as much of a key role in my life, if any in my life at times. He never wanted children and seemed to want to lead the life of a bachelor. My older brother, Michael was born on my mothers 30th Birthday, 13 april 1985 at the Parklane clinic.He is 28 years old and has an honours degree in Financial Planning. Mike and I had been living with my mom since my parents separated in 1991 but 2 years ago he was transferred to Switzerland by the company he works for,Xstrata. My brother is the most incredible person I know and I struggle not having him at home. There are two other members of my family even though they might not be considered as actual members by most, but they certainly are to us. Our beloved 10 year old ginger haired cat, Diesel has been a valued member of the family since we got him as the little bundle of fluff of a kitten. Our nanny, Elizabeth is 45 years old and has been a part of our family since I was two years old. She has been like a second mother to me. 5 years ago, she got married and I was honoured to be her maid of honour.
3.Type of Family
My family would be considered a reconstituted family,’ consisting of second marriages or blended families (Barker,1998,p14).’ My father left on my third birthday in 1991 and my parents got divorced later that year. My father then married a woman, Lorraine after dating her for 13 years. She had two sons fromher previous marriage,one of which was brutally murdered while they were collecting rent form a building she owns. Her younger son lives in Melbourne with his wife and two children. Switching to stepparents new rules and...
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