The Problem and Its Background
Friendship ... Love ... Dating ... Premarital Sex ... Going Steady … Marriage.. Family ... these are some of the issues that young people may face when they grow up. The Teenage Love Relationship deals with the relationship of love that exists between the teenage groups. In schools the teenagers usually make friends easily and therefore there remains the chance for a young boy/girl to get easily involved in a relationship. The teenagers usually do not consider the various aspects that are associated with the relationship of love and therefore tend to make mistakes regarding the choosing of a girlfriend/boyfriend. Teenage is that phase of life, when one tries to discover life and makes attempts to unfold the mysteries of life or it could be said that a teenager finds himself/herself trapped in this complex world. A teenager therefore searches for a true friend, with whom he/ she can share all his/her troubles or is in need of a friend who would help him/her to cope with the challenges offered by life. Therefore it can be deducted that the root of teen love is friendship and often adulation of friends leads to infatuation. 11
Love is in fact the aspect due to which romance culminates into a relationship. Love is something which can’t be determined or measured by anyone. In most cases it has been observed that the teenage love that does not last a lifetime but it is said that the love that one experiences as a teenager helps her/him choose the right partner in the future. The various factors that a teenager should pay heed to before getting deeply involved in a relationship are: * See to the fact that he/she pays heed to your problems and finds happiness in your achievements. * Look in to the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend respects your decisions and opinions. * Pay heed to the fact that whether he/she makes the effort to spend time with you. * Take notice of the fact that, whether your lover tries to involve you in every sphere of his/her life. While speaking about teenage romantic relationships, we cannot neglect the pros and cons. Very often, we hear on news channels or read in newspapers about dating violence or abusive relationships. According to studies conducted, it is found females aged between 16 to 24 face physical violence during the 12
early stages of relationship. It is stated that 20 to 30 percent of teens in romantic relationships suffer psychological abuse, either verbally or emotionally. In order to avoid such issues, there should be proper understanding and communication between the parents and their teenage child, since parents want the best interest of their children they are the ones who can provide the best advice about staying out of unhealthy relationships. But at the same time, healthy adolescent relationships can have certain positive values. A healthy relationship is characterized by open communication and trust. Though adolescent relationships or teen dating are often neglected, it is interesting to know that such relationships help in the overall development of the teenage boys and girls as youths. Adolescent relationships often have long-lasting effects and help in providing emotional support, developing self-esteem and personal identification values. Parents perhaps compare this generation to their own, where purely arranged marriages were dominant, and where relationships began only after the age of maybe 18. But it doesn’t work that way anymore. During a child’s early years, they desperately need parents as their source of support, encouragement and praise. But when they grow up and start forming romantic relationships, they naturally begin to get these needs met by their partners
instead. Instead of disapproving of this, maybe parents should see that by raising a child who can find emotional support in relationships, they’ve done a good job. A teen relationship can be any kind of...