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Rhonda T. Tucker
August 10, 2012
HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE 2 Abstract Marriage is a relationship that can be beautiful between two wonderful people. There are some good and bad aspects to the institution of marriage that must be examined. One thing for certain, just about any marriage can be successful, if the right motives are in place. But understanding some of the do’s and don’t that will lead to a successful marriage and how to develop methods and strategies will that will help each couple will help to keep a marriage successful.
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Marriage is defined as the formal union of a man and a woman, typically recognized by law, by which they become husband and wife (Merriam-Webster Dictionary, 1996). It is a scared joining of male and female under the Power of God. The marriage vows explains,“ I take you, to be my lawfully wedded husband,/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for the better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in hearth, until death do us part (Episcopal Church, 2011). This sounds like a successful marriage, or does it? Men and women do want to have a successful future together, but too often something happens. There are demands of work, home life, child rearing and so much more. Sometimes finding a balance between work and family life is a real challenge.
There are more married couples that try to make there marriage work, than those who are just willing to call it quits. In order to have a successful marriage there are some things that must be put in order, planned and thought of deeply to keep a marriage where it needs to be.
Marriage can bring big changes to the life of an individual and oftentimes many couples take each other for granted. We often stop seeing each other as important and instead start putting other things ahead of our spouse. It’s like sometimes we think ‘Hey my wife/husband is not going anywhere so I can do what I want”. We don’t stop and think that we need to put as much of an investment into our spouses as we do to our other interests or hobbies. We forget there are two of us now instead just ourselves.
HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE 4 Successful couples always keep each other respectfully ahead of other things. They are interested in their spouse’s opinions, interests and careers and they take their spouse seriously. They never take each other for grant and it is remembered how lucky they are to have this person in their lives.
There has to be good motives for succeeding in any marriage. Getting married is a decision not based on one just wanting to get married. The reasons many get married are as varied as the individuals who get married. Many marry for companionship, love, sex and children. If a man marries it’s because he wants someone to show him attention and many women marry to become a mother. These are the wrong reason to get married. It is more important that one focus on the realistic and ideal reason why you want to get married.
There must be strong decision making when deciding on getting married. It is important to distinguish between what you want as a man or woman as opposed to what your parents or family may think. Getting married should be based on what kind of life you want to build with your spouse. A couple that shares the same ideals on marriage is certainly going to experience problems but if they have the same ideals they will be able to sort through and work out what problems they do have. One thing to keep in mind that when you get married, that a married couple...