May 31, 2011
Androgynous - a mixture of masculine and feminine traits.
I believe that face paintings is an fun and androgynous activity. Until, a boy gets a face
painting that’s generally associated with a girl. Maybe there’s a reason for it like: an older
sibling of the opposite sex had one or he’s forever fascinated with the subject and that’s
his way of expressing it. On the other hand, it is okay for a little girl to have a masculine
face painting in society is understanding of that. I am understanding and knowledgeable
of what negative things this portrays for young boys, but face paintings are just that, face
One Friday evening, I took my daughter whose(5) and son (3) years old to her school
carnival. The second activity they wanted to go to was face painting. My daughter chose a
purple butterfly to be painted on her face and my son copied her. I permitted this, with
androgyny. I figured his only copying his sister you that’s all. Well, when we walked to
the another activity I noticed people (especially of my culture) looking at my son and then
me. As I was standing in the line I started thinking about what my son’s dad would do. I
could hear him saying, “ You need to tell them to take that off , I don’t know why you let
them put it on him. He’s not a girl.” Because he is the most important peer in my kids
life other than me. I decided to do just that. Peer - a person who influences us by
providing us with feedback, whether its positive or negative.
Modeling - demonstrating or showing your same sex the behaviors that you want them to
adopt. I never thought of my husband teaching our son to imitate his very own ways as
modeling. Because I didn’t know the correct term for it. I knew what he was doing, duh.
Any how, he would demonstrate how to go potty with our son, when I went to the store
he would keep my son at home...