Why would a parent choose to handicap their child, hinder and obstruct their well- being, or diminish their future quality of life by spoiling their special child? To spoil means to do harm the character nature or attitude of something or someone by over solitude, over indulgence, or special praise. So why do so many parents spoil their children? Most parents will argue that they spoil their children out of love and to avoid hurting their feelings. Some parents give their children what they want to avoid conflict. And some just want to be their child’s friend. In order to reduce crying, complaining, or tantrums from children, parents willingly give in to the unruly behavior to keep peace.
Parents are moved by instinct to love, nurture and provide for their offspring. While it may seem that buying your child expensive gifts will give them fond memories of childhood, parents may be unconsciously interfering with their children’s evolutional development. The Nurture Paradox is the instinct that parents possess to provide as much nurturance as possible to their young children’s development. These instincts may be fine when the children are young, but may backfire badly when they reach adolescence. Being spoiled may seem quite beneficial. First of all, spoiled children get what they want and many times when they want it. A lot of the time parents provide their children with designer clothes, large amounts of money, vehicles, and even homes. Everything is given to them from all aspects of life and they are dependent upon their dependable parents. The best benefit of all is the entitlement of being “special”. Pampered, protected, and free of worries. Many parents make the mistake of raising their kids in a wrong way; that is through satisfying all of their unrealistic material needs and demands, not scolding them and treating them like a delicate being. They feel this is the way to convey love for their kid. The child soon turns into someone who can’t tolerate a “no”...
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