Dr. K. Erikson
June 19th, 2012
We all know, and if we do not know, that the days of command-and-control leadership are long gone. The fact that not all have heard, should be a responsibility, for those of us that have mastered the true art and science of conversations to step up and exemplify to our society this same art of “Emotional Intelligence” . We have truly so much yet to learn about one another, to experience heights we have not yet. We are thankful for what we have conquered’ our learned skill, and achieving long sustainable positive results for ourselves and our organizations. Daniel Goleman’s first book on the topic of emotional intelligence has become one of the hottest buzzwords in corporate America. For instance, in 1995 the Harvard Business Review published an article on the topic. Two years later, it attracted a higher percentage of readers than any other article published in that periodical in the last 40 years at that time. When the CEO of Johnson & Johnson read that article, he was so impressed that he had copies sent out to the 400 top executives in the company worldwide. What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and diffuse conflict. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others. If you have a high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life. Emotional Intelligence Is...
“Emotional intelligence(EQ), is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.” (Drs. Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves) Emotional Intelligence Is the Other Kind of Smart.
Emotional intelligence made its debut in 1995. It served as the missing link in a peculiar finding which found that people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into what many people had always assumed was the sole source of success. Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a tad of incapability of being perceived by senses. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate through social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results. Emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that couple into two primary competencies, Personal competence and Social competence. Personal competence is made up of your self-awareness and self-management skills, which focus more on you individually than on your interactions with other people. Personal competence is your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behavior and tendencies. * Self-Awareness is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen. * Self-Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior. Social competence is made up of your social awareness and relationship management skills; it is your ability to understand other people’s moods, behavior, and motives in order to improve the quality of your relationships. * Social Awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on. * Relationship Management is your ability to use...