What is abuse?
Can abuse be considered violence? Violence is considered a type of behavior intended to cause harm. Not all violence is the same. Not all acts of violence are carried out with intent. Intent is when physical or psychological harm occurs by accident and not with intent is not violence. All violence is not the same, sometimes it has to do with the issue of motivation and not intent. When violence is carried out because of motivational purposes it is considered abuse. Abuse can take many forms. Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, and verbal. It can also be a combination. Abuse is behavior which is used to control and subjugate another human, through the use of fear. Humiliation, intimidation, guilt, and manipulation are all tools used abuse another human being. One other important form of abuse is neglect. This is when the basic needs of another person are not taken care of, this usually happens in a parent child relationship. Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse can be very hard to detect. It is defined as a pattern of behavior by the parents or guardians that affects the child cognitive, emotional, psychological, and social development. This is done by constant humiliation, intimidation, and belittling. Eventually the person loses self worth, and has a low self esteem. Emotional abuse is based on power and control. This is the most common form of abuse, and it is the least talked about. A lot of people overlook it and see it as a form of communication. A lot of emotional abuse does not appear to be serious, or dramatic so most people don’t realize they are being emotionally abused. Types of Emotional Abuse
Abusive Expectation is when the other person places unreasonable demands on you and wants you to put everything else aside to tend to their needs. Some other types of abusive expectations include: * Being subjected to constant criticism and being berated * Demand for constant attention
* Some aggressive forms abuse includes name- calling, threats, and ordering. Aggressive behavior is usually obvious and direct. Dominating
* Someone wants to control your every action. They have to have their own way, and will resort to threats to get it. * When you allow someone else to dominate you, you can lose respect for yourself. Verbal Assaults
* Berating, belittling, criticizing, name calling, screaming, threatening * Excessive blaming, and using sarcasm and humiliation.
* Blowing your flaws out of proportion and making fun of you in front of others. Over time, this type of abuse erodes your sense of self confidence and self-worth. Corrupting/ exploiting
Using a person for advantage or profit, bringing up a child to serve your our selfish interest and not the child. Some examples include allowing the child to use drugs and alcohol, or to view pornography. Encouraging a child to do things that are harmful to themselves and others is also a form of corruption. * Rewarding a child for bullying and harassing behavior
* Teaching racism and ethnic biases
* Encouraging violence is sports activities
* Rewarding children for lying and stealing.
* Infants expected not to cry
* Expecting youth to support family financially
* Young child expected to take care of younger siblings
This is considered socializing a person into accepting ideas or behaviors that goes against the legal standards. Denying emotional responsiveness
The failure to provide emotional support in a sensitive and responsive manner; being uninvolved and detached. Ignoring someone’s emotional and mental needs and failing to show affection. No abuse occurs without psychological harm. All abuse contains emotional harm. Understanding Abusive Relationships
People don’t look for abusive relationships, in most cases you end up being in one. People who were verbally abused by a parent or significant other tend to find...