Effects of Divorce on Children

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Divorce and Children.

Forum: familycouselor.com

Topic: “The Effects of Divorce on Children".
Thesis: As the consequences of divorce, the children’s lives get affected in a variety of ways, which can reveal themselves within a short period of time or throughout many years after the divorce, in their adulthood. Outlines:

1.  The biggest problems children face are financial:
a) negatively affects the emotional aspects of children's lives: a single parent has less time to provide emotional support and appropriate supervision; b) negatively affects the social aspects of children's lives: moving to a lower-income neighborhood;

2. Boys tend to suffer greater emotional and psychological problems following a divorce than do girls: a) boys show aggression, disruption, acting out behavior; b) girls show less immediate effects;

3. Divorces with predivorce parental conflict:

a) behavioral and emotional adjustment problems: dropping of the school, higher rates of premarital pregnancy and fatherhood, infidelity, problems with anger management;

4. . Long term effects on children:

a)more likely to divorce after marrying;
b) always afraid of loss;
c) problems in intimate relationships.

When parents decide to divorce or separate, their children are faced with multiple stressors, affecting children negatively in a number of ways. Before starting the separation and divorce process, the parents have to understand and be prepared to deal with the traumatic effects it has on the children. It is the children, who suffer the most from divorce. Consequences of divorce can be different for children, depending on their level of development, age and sex, but in any case, the children suffer before and after divorce. As the consequences of divorce, the children’s lives get affected in a variety of ways, which can reveal themselves within a short period of time or throughout many years after the divorce, in their adulthood. During divorce, the children's mentality and vulnerable souls demand great attention, understanding and advertence. During this period the children seek from the parents of emotional empathy to their pain, more delicacy and proximity, both spiritual and physical. This requirement is extremely necessary for unstable children's mentality but often a single parent has less time to provide emotional support and appropriate supervision to the children. As Gale research center’s researchers find, the need for income might mean that a single parent has less time to provide emotional support and appropriate supervision. Families headed by a single woman with children represent the poorest of all major population groups, regardless of how poverty is measured. Nearly a third of single-mother families live in poverty, compared to about 5 percent of two-parent families. This situation is aggravated by the fact that about one-quarter of women granted child supports do not receive it. Another quarter receives less than is ordered by the court. Following a divorce, a family may have to move to a lower-income neighborhood, which weakens the child's connections to existing friends and neighbors. It also may mean that a child has to attend poorer quality schools or give up extracurricular activities (22). Boys seem to fare worse than girls in a divorce. They tend to suffer greater emotional and psychological problems. Boys show more maladjustment and more prolonged problems than girls in response to divorce. For boys, the increase of aggression, dependency, disobedience is greater than for girls and the effects of divorce persist for a longer period of time. Kendra Randall Jolivet compares the effect of divorce on boys and girls as separate groups. Although children vary in the way they adapt to divorce, boys tend to suffer greater emotional and psychological problems following a divorce than do girls. The effect on boys appeared more...
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