MANUAL ON EFFECTIVE PARENTING (Enriched Parent Effectiveness Service) This manual is taken from a publication of the Department of Social Welfare and Development, with the permission to freely review, abstract, reproduce and translate, in part or in its entirety, as long as it is not for sale or for use in conjunction with commercial purposes.
MODULE ONE MYSELF AS A PERSON AND AS A PARENT
Sessions in this module: Session 1 Session 2 Understanding Myself as a Person My Self-esteem as a Parent
SESSION ONE UNDERSTANDING MYSELF AS A PERSON
Estimated time: Required materials: 1 hour and 20 minutes Manila paper (with drawing of a hand), bond paper, ballpen/pencil, marking pens, masking tape
Let’s begin by taking a closer look at ourselves. Do you sometimes fall into the trap of becoming so busy earning a living or doing your household activities? The last week, was there a time when you stopped and thought about what you want your family to be? Or what kind of parent you are? This session will help you reflect and understand yourself better as a person. This is the initial big step you should take towards becoming more effective in your parental roles.
The parents should be able to • • • Identify individual strengths and weaknesses Describe the factors that affect characteristics of a person Clarify family values and goals to better fulfill parental roles
I. Basic Strengths of an Individual • • • • • • • II. Capability to think Capability to love Capability to improve Capability to fulfill one’s goals and aspirations Freedom and responsibility Uniqueness Sociability
Basic Weaknesses of an Individual • • Too much pride Selfishness
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Laziness Irresponsible Inconsiderate of others Bad habits and vices Lack of education
Factors that Affect One’s Characteristics as a Person • • • • Individual and family values Personality traits Childhood experiences Personal and family goals
Family Values • Loving • Faith • Resourcefulness • Praise • Respectfulness • Trust • Responsibility • Cooperation • Commitment • Compassion • Thankfulness Goals of Parents • • • • •
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Worship Humility Dedication Courage Perseverance Purposefulness Prayerfulness Goodness Repentance Conviction Forgiveness
Raise healthy, happy children Give children proper education Train children to be good responsible citizens Provide security to the family Practice Godliness at home
• • • Individual Reflection Small Group Discussion Plenary Discussion
Procedures Activity 1
Provide introductory statement on self: Do you really know who you are? What are your characteristics as a person? How do these characteristics affect your thoughts, feelings, and actions? Have you ever tried exploring deeper into your true self? The importance of knowing yourself is a big step towards becoming an effective person. To successfully take this step, however, you will have to be open and honest in searching and discovering your true self. Introduce and explain the mechanisms of this activity called “Five Fingers of my Life”. Draw a big right hand on a manila paper and write down the key words of questions representing each finger then put it up on the board or on the wall. Then ask each participant to draw their right hand on a bond paper and to answer the questions represented by each finger.
What is important to me as a person? Personality Traits. What is it about my being a person that I like? What is that I am proud of in myself as a person? What are my weaknesses as a person?
MIDDLE FINGER: Family Affairs. What do my family and other people say they like about me? What do they say they do not like about me? RING FINGER: Childhood Experiences. What are the significant events in my childhood? How do I feel about my childhood experiences? Family Goals. What are my goals as a parent? What do I want to develop and...
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