October 28, 2012
Many people plan on getting married at some point in their life. That being said, there are risks involved with getting married. Marriages are prone to failure because of lack of passion, lack of commitment and lack of intimacy. Marriage is a gamble, it has its ups and downs and there is no guarantee for a successful marriage.
Many couples feel madly in love with each other and then decide to get married. Over the course of many years together, most couples lose the ‘spark’ in their relationship, no matter how much they were attracted to each other before. In the movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’, Ben and Janine are a married couple that go through this situation. They married when they were young, and now they no longer have the same passion for each other. In Sternberg’s theory of love, there are different types of love and this would be an example of a companionate love because they lack passion but still have intimacy and commitment.
Marriages also fail because of lack of commitment between partners. Couples who are not committed enough and cheat on their partner will go through a divorce or they will no longer have the same trust they had for their partner. In the real world there are many instances where cheating happens and usually ends in a divorce. Also in the movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’, Ben cheats on his wife Janine when he is no longer committed to her.
A marriage between two people will not work if they are not willing to talk to each other and share their feelings. Lack of emotional intimacy between partners will lead to a dysfunctional marriage because the couple will not feel connected if they don’t share their interests, life goals, and their troubles etc. Showing intimacy in a relationship will build trust, understanding and love between partners. This is important because it helps couples understand the needs of their partners and thus creating a happy marriage.
Marriage is not...