“Domestic Violence and Abuse”

Domestic Violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is overlooked, excused, or denied. Domestic Violence occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. Domestic Violence and abuse is used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain control and maintain total control over a person.   Abusers used this control over their partner to intimidate and to keep fear in the person. An abuser doesn’t play fair at all. Abusers use guilt and shame against their partner. Abusers also threaten you, or hurt those around you.   Domestic Violence and abuse does not discriminate. It happens with heterosexual and in same sex partnerships. Women are more commonly victimized. There are many signs of abuse relationships. One of the most common reasons I research on is fear of the partner. The women have fear and basically walk on eggshells around their partner. The victim is constantly watching what to say and do. The relationship is unhealthy and abusive when your partners belittles and control you.   Abusers use a variety of tactics to manipulate you and exert their power.  
• Dominance
Abuser need to feel in charge.
• Humiliation
Eroding victim self-esteem
Making victim feel worthlessly
Public put-downs
• Isolation

An abusive partner will cut your relationship off with family and friends.   The victim will have to ask for permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone.   Abusers pick and choose whom to abuse. They don’t abuse, threat, insult, or assault everyone in their life who gives them grief. The abuse usually is for the closest ones they claim to love. Abusers carefully choose when to abuse and where. They control themselves until no one is around to see their abusive behavior. They act like everything is fine in public, but become belligerent instantly when you’re alone.   Also the abusers tend to abuse their... [continues]

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