June 6, 2011
Divorce Research Paper
In the United States the average man aged twenty six marries for the first time and for women the age is twenty five. It is estimated from recent statistics that there are 4.95 per 1,000 people divorcing in the United States. The weighted average among all countries is 1.3 per 1,000 people (NationMaster, 2011). The writer will discuss divorce in America and provide supportive data and research. The writer will also be discussing how divorce effect’s those involved and the issues and problems that they face. Included will be approaches and resources for resolving or improving marriages. Divorce
For most of us as adults when reciting our marriage vows the promise of staying with your partner “till death do us part” is what we expect to do. In some cases this is the impossible. Couples in time often drift apart for various reasons or they realize that the person they married they are no longer in love with. The number one reason couple’s divorce in the United States is money. When there is a shortage of finances between the couple, it can take a toll on the marriage. Other common reasons for divorce is infidelity, poor communication, a change in priorities, lack of commitment to the marriage, sexual problems, addictions, and physical, emotional or sexual abuse ( McCloud, 2006). How Divorce Effects Couples
Couples facing a marriage break-up will have to cope with anxiety, anger, sadness, weariness, guilt, feelings of isolation, low self-esteem, worry, disappointment, frustration, and loneliness. Among partners in marriage these feelings are unavoidable before, during and after the process of divorce. These partners may also experience social stigma, which includes the help of welfare and other organizations that add to the stigma. Many women are forced to go back to work after depending on their husbands for years as their source of income. In addition, legal matters are stressful for these couples as well and many couples face more responsibilities as a single parent. Legal costs for the divorce proceeding add up, and further conflict may occur in court if one party fails to comply with the order of the court. Higher personal income taxes and the loss of the home when it is sold during the divorce are added problems as well. In any marriage break-up, it is the children who are most likely to be affected psychologically. They are the unfortunate victims of the bickering’s between parents. Faced with their own problems, parents tend to disregard their children's feelings, thus making the children feel that they are unwanted. The writer having experienced divorce herself understands the frustration of the divorce proceedings, and sometimes these proceeding can take years before they come to an end. Many times they end with neither party completely satisfied with the outcome. There are many cases noted in the United States where viciousness or a dispute over divorce proceedings has caused the death of not only the spouse but the child or children from the marriage as well. We hear in the news so often of murder-suicides from disputes over divorce proceedings. There has been disturbing cases in Indiana, California and Michigan in which police believe that bitterness over divorce filings prompted tragic murders. In one instance a deadly Indiana airplane crash attributed to a man’s disdain over the divorce process led him to crash his single-engine Cessna airplane that he was piloting into the house of his ex-mother-in-law, killing himself and his eight-year-old daughter who was a passenger in the craft (Total Divorce, 2011). In another case a property division dispute in a California divorce is believed to cause a man to shoot his wife to death. The Oakland woman was gunned down by her husband in front of more than 100 parishioners outside a gospel church prior...