Reaction Paper #2
Dr. J. Kim
Parenting is a very important task, a gift from God, and should not be taken lightly. In our society today, many people are taking the role of parenting as a big brother/sister role, or treating their own children as friends and not as the authority figure over them, and the guide that God has placed them to be. God expects us to raise our children to become product, positive, Christians, not just productive citizens in our society. In our text, we learned of the different parenting styles--authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and the uninvolved parent. I know parents in every category. Sadly, in many cases it is easy to tell which children have which kind of parents. As I thought about the assignment, and what kind of parent I would like to be at first it was initially obvious---of course the authoritative. However, I look at each one more intensely, and I studied which style my parents were and I came to the conclusion that I might want to exercise a little of the authoritarian, authoritative and permissive at different times and stages of my children’s lives.
The Authoritative parents are the parents who exercise “firm, setting clear and consistent limits” (Feldman 2008). These parents are strict, but not to the point that they are unwilling to listen, to engage, and respect their children as little people. This is probably the “ideal” parenting style. This style allows the children to have thought and to disagree at times. I like this style because it builds the respect and bond for both the child and parent.
The parent is the authority figure and maintains that position through consistency and firmness. However, in this style the parent allows room for error (on his/her part), it can give the child a chance to voice their concern or disagreement with a decision in a respectful way. The authoritative style parent is also a better communicator with his/her children and maybe...