Comp I – Definition Essay
March 22, 2011
My definition of cheating is simple. If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship with someone, and you are hiding the attachment (both physical and/or emotional) you formed with someone else you are not with, then you are cheating. Having sex with someone else while you are in a relationship with another is cheating. There are no excuses for it, and it does not matter if that other person in question is a prostitute or a fellow coworker. You are still cheating. Most people will agree with this. The second part of cheating, though, is where people may differ on. It is not only through the physical that constitutes someone as a cheater, but also the emotional as well. Before anyone jumps in and says that you cannot hold one's emotions against them, and this is true to an extent. This is why I qualified my statement with "hiding the attachment." You may enjoy spending time with someone of the opposite sex, talking to him or her on the phone, or going out with him or her (as in not a date) after work. For the most part, that is fine, but only if, your significant other is aware of the friendship at hand. If you find that you are hiding your calls, texts, or meetings with the other person from your significant other, then you are cheating emotionally. If you find that you would rather spend more time with this other person than your significant other, then you are cheating emotionally, especially if you are despising going home to see your significant other, or just seeing that person in general. Just because it does not start with sex does not mean it is not cheating. If you are having a relationship with this other person, over what you have with the person you are currently with, and all that is missing is the sex? Then yes, you are cheating. The line that is crossed is not sex; it is when you form that attachment that slips into raising that person above your significant...