Death of Loved One
When you lose someone that has been very precious to you, the grief is intense. Pain, memories, and questions can easily haunt you. Then, how to overcome the pain from the death of a loved one? In my opinion, to cope with grief and loss, you need to face the loss, share your feelings with others and distract yourself. Even an author of Dynamics of Grief: Its Source, Pain, and Healing said that "While the pain of your loss is real and must be felt, there will come a time when you must begin to live your own life again and accepting the death as a reality" (Switzer, 1970) First, you need to face the loss because if you keep ignoring the pain, it will bring harm to you. It can be easy to sedate yourself with distractions such as alcohol, oversleeping, and any others habit that threatens your well being and this will leave you to addiction and confusion. You will never truly heal until you confront the loss and what it means to you personally. So, you need to allow yourself some time to hurt deeply but don't allow yourself to get stuck there. Also if you not face the loss, it will bring more serious problems later, including depression, trauma and addictions. Even if you are hurting, you also need to start working out how to cope and find resilient pathways through your pain and loss. One of the best ways is by accepting that God loved him or her more. Albom (1997) stated that “If you hold back on the emotions -if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them -you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely" (p. 37). Second, you can share your feeling with others such as your best friend, your close relatives or counselor. You are suffering and it is okay...
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