Name: Lee Huan Jet
The book that I have read is a combination of two different books that were wrote by Dale Carnegie. In this book, readers will be able to learn how to win friends and influence people, and also learn how to stop worrying and start living. The book is very interesting as it teaches us values in an interesting way. For example, it tells us stories and also gives us examples. I think that this book is very useful for the future of everyone.
In the book, I have already read the first chapter which is the fundamental techniques in handling people. In this chapter, there consists of three different value that Dale Carnegie wants us to know and learn as well as applying it to our lives. The first value I have gained from the chapter is do not criticize, condemn and complain. This is very important as every people has their own pride and also their sense of important. If they are criticized, they will tend to feel that they are being ignored or looked down. They will tend to put themselves in a defensive side and will make him strive to justify himself. If one does not criticize another, instead they are praised for their work, they will be able to work more efficiently. For example, B.F. Skinner, a world-famous psychologist, has proved this by doing experiment on animals. It is found that the one’s being praised and reward for their good behavior are able to learn more efficiently than those that are being punished for bad behavior. Condemn is also an action that we must not take. It bring no good to one’s own reputation as well as another. One of the examples was that Abraham Lincoln, in his early days, always like to condemn people. One day, a politician that he condemned challenged him to a duel due to Lincoln’s action, although the duel was interrupted, this taught Lincoln an valuable lesson that one should not condemn another and from that day on he did not condemn others anymore and thus becoming one...
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