Coming to America was one of my dreams, so I started
working on it and after completing collage, I received the
visa for the States and bought the ticket to come to
America. I was a little bit confused because I had been
hearing about America since my childhood. There is a huge
cultural difference between my society and the modern
society of the States, and because of these differences, my
friends and I faced some problems after coming here. These
problems are commonly called cultural shocks. By analyzing
the differences between America and my own country of
Pakistan, in the areas of gender roles, family, marriage
and celebrations, one can see how cultural shocks occur.
Since my birth, I have been living in a society where the
men and women are not all to interact with each other as
over here. It is one of the biggest differences in my
culture and the culture here. There are usually separate
classes for girls and boys in my society, but over here,
there is no concept of this. In addition, I know you will
surprise to earn that having a boyfriend for a girl or a
girlfriend for a boy is a difficult achievement.
In my society there is a joint family system, the children
live together with their parents whether they are under 18
or not. Over here, there is a concept of "individualism".
Every one has an individual life, making their own
decisions for every thing. Here, a person over 18 living
with his parents is considered an immature person. In my
culture, a person not living with his parents doesn't have
a respectable place in the society, because it is our
social and religious custom to take care of our parents.
Divorce is common here, but in my society it's not good to
even think about it. People are divorced, but not as
commonly as over here. For example, among every 100 married
people, perhaps just one is divorced, but over here out of
hundred, about fifty are divorced or separated....