September 25, 2011
Critique of Shared Talking Styles
“Communication experts generally agree that when two people are engaged in a face-to-face conversation, only a small fraction of the total message they share is contained in the words they use. A large portion of the message is contained in vocal elements such as tone of voice, accent, speed, volume, and inflection” (Preston, 2005). The intention of this essay is to discuss my views on the article, Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance written by Bruce Bower in 2010. I will write upon the score I received from the Language Style Matching website and why I do not believe that it is an inaccurate measure of communication compatibility in an interpersonal relationship. This essay will also discuss why I feel that non verbal communication can be more important in an interpersonal relationship than shared words.
The article, Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance was very interesting, yet quite impersonal. While I might go as far to say that a shared talking style can interest the intellectual side of me, I find feelings and emotions are more adept at fanning the love flames. The article claims that the use of function words hint as to the attentiveness that each person is giving to what is being said. This writer believes that when two people are involved in an interpersonal relationship and are closely connected, words are often not needed for effective communication.
My LSM score received from the Language Style Matching website is a .fifty-three. The website tells me that this is far below average. My analysis was based upon instant messages between my husband and myself. According to the website, an average LSM score for instant messages is around an .eighty-four as well as it noted that LSM scores for instant messages and ongoing conversations are usually higher than say an email perhaps. The...