Chinese vs Western parents

1. “What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it.” I totally agree with Chua not because I’m an Asian. Children should learn their lessons about accepting the challenges, endurance, and failure. For example, nothing is fun when children take a piano class, and quit it after one month because they are tired of practicing. Then they choose another class and give up if they have trouble. Finally, they don’t gain any success at all. The fact that children make the funny thing and build their confidence when children earn their experience and achievements after overcoming many difficulties.
2. Chua’s husband disagrees with her child-rearing methods because he’s Western parent. He says that: “Children don’t choose their parents… Kids don’t owe their parents anything. Their duty will be to their own kids.”
3. Chinese parents are able to do things that Western parents cannot because of three big differences between the Chinese and Western parental mind-sets. First, while Western parents are extremely anxious about their children’s self-esteem, Chinese parents aren’t. Second, Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything, but Western parents have the opposite view. Third, Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children’s own desires and preferences. Western parents try to respect their children’s individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and nurturing environment.
4. She emphasizes that: “It is not that Chinese parents don’t care about their children. Just the opposite. They would give up anything for their children. It’s just an entirely different parenting model.”
5. The Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do what’s best for their children. They believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for future, letting them see what they are capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits, and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.