Chinese Parents and American Parents

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Chinese parents and American parents differ greatly in their parenting styles and a noticeable difference can be seen in the success of their children. The children of Chinese parents often excel in various areas, including in their educational, musical, and professional lives. The children of American parents, however, usually have a harder time excelling in those areas. Chinese parents and American parents hold opposing philosophies about how they view their children, opposing methods about how they raise their children, and opposing effects on the personalities of their children.

Chinese parents feel that their children have a responsibility to obey them and pay them back for their efforts in raising them. American parents, on the other hand, believe that it is their own responsibility to provide for their children and they do not ask for much in return for their hard work. Chinese parent believe that their children success is a parental merit, so there is little room for the parent to show grace in the child's failures because the parent will interpret these as parental failures. In contrast, American parent are more likely to try and excuse the child and their selves for filial failures, which also leaves little room for grace because it fails to acknowledge sin. “Chinese parents believe they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children’s own desires and preferences.” American parents, on the other hand, respect their children’s individuality and provide positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment at every opportunity.

When it comes to raising children’s Chinese and American use different method’s with their children’s. Chinese parent are stricter than the American parents. Chinese parents assume strength, not fragility. Chinese parents demand perfection grades because they believe their child can get them and they are invested in insuring that they put in the time to achieve perfection. In contrast, American parents worry about how their children will feel if they fail at something and they constantly try to reassure their children about how good they are notwithstanding a mediocre performance on a test or at a recital. Chinese parent raise their children to be prepared for the future by letting them know what they’re capable of, and giving them the tools and the confidence that no one can take it away. In the other hand, American parent raise their children to be independent and support their choices by providing positive feedback. Chinese parent raise their children to be tough and capable to face emotional situations, they can call their children “Hey Fatty-lose some weight”. BY contrast, Western parent have to tiptoe around the issue, and never ever mentioning the f-word, and they persuade themselves that they’re not disappointed about how their kids turned out.

“Nothing is fun until you’re good at it.”Tenacious practice is a Chinese strategy to build their children personalities .Chinese drill their kids on thousands of practice tests and make sure they practice whatever they are learning for hours and hours until they succeed. Chinese parent spend more time with their children and force them to learn music “Get back to the piano now, “I ordered. Inner confidence along with good working habits is the key to success and will be with them for the rest of their lives. In contrast, American parent consider a half hour or an hour is a good amount of time to practice with their children, and if their children fail to success they give up. Chinese parent force their children, to have best grades not B or A- if they did they will gasp in horror and ask what went wrong, they demand perfects grades because they assume that their children should put more effort into their work to get what they want .On the other hand, American parent will praise their child even if they have a low grade B or C, and if they want to shame their children they only express disapproval,...
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