Informative Speech #2
TOPIC:Cheating in Relationships
GENERAL PURPOSE:To answer common inquiries about cheating
SPECIFIC PURPOSE:To arm individuals with insight and knowledge as to why people cheat and what one can do to lessen the chances of cheating occurring in a relationship
THESIS:The more one is aware of the prevalence of cheating and how it occurs, the better preventive steps one can take toward creating a more secure relationship, and a better relationship in general.
I. How many of you have ever cheated or been cheated on in a relationship? (attention getter)
A. From regretful one-night stands to individuals who seek multiple affairs over long stretches of time, infidelity is the most cited reason for divorce, as well as wife battering and wife killing.
II. I’ve had conversations about cheating in various social settings, and everyone has their opinion on the subject, but what are the real numbers?
A. I mean, how many people actually cheat?
B. And more contentiously, who cheats more – men or women?
III. And why do they cheat?
A. Is it from boredom?
B. Does it imply a lack of love?
C. Is it due to problems in the relationship?
D. Or are some people simply incapable of monogamy?
IV. Finally, are there things one can do to lessen the chances of cheating occurring by either party?
TRANSITION:Today, I will touch on these questions. (preview)
I. As I get older, I find my life experiences compelling to ask: Does the whole world cheat?
A. Well, let’s take a look at some numbers.
1. Different sources I looked at consistently gave different statistics – depending on your definition of cheating.
a) In the article “Understanding Infidelity” from the Journal of Family Psychology, between 1991 – 96, researchers asked 12,000 married study participants the question: “Have you ever had sex with someone other than your spouse while married?”
b) The percentage that answered “Yes”? – approximately 21.5 %.
c) Please note that these were of the more conservative estimates I found.
B. So now the next question, naturally: Who cheats more – men or women?
1. The same article reports that traditionally it’s been men with the higher infidelity rates.
a) However, the gaps between cheating men and women are lessening in modern times.
b) In the Men’s Health article “Flirting with Disaster”, a University of Chicago survey reports that 20% of men cheat in their lifetimes compared with 12% of women.
2. But the types of infidelity tend to be different for men and women.
a) In “Understanding Infidelity”, of the women who have affairs, 40.5% are emotionally involved with greater feelings of guilt, versus only 11.5% of men.
b) Men are more likely than women to have sexual-only affairs.
TRANSITION:Now that we have some numbers, let’s take a look at some factors for cheating predictability.
I. You are more likely to cheat:
A. the more money you make
B. the higher your employment status
C. the more educated you are
D. the higher your I.Q.
E. the more opportunity and access you have (e.g. travel, associate with appealing individuals)
F. the more time you spend apart
G. the better looking you are
H. if you are tall
I. the less religious you are
J. the younger you were when you got married
K. the longer your relationship
L. if your mate has cheated (revenge cheating)...