Gerard Egan described 3 stages in his helping model, which he sees as a “map that helps . . . in your interactions with clients”. † Each stage can support the helpee in asking a question of themselves.
Stage 1: Current scenario: “What is here?”
• This is about building a trusting relationship with the helpee and helping them to explore and clarify their problem situation.
• It deals with what is happening now for the helpee.
Stage II: Preferred scenario: “What do I want here?”
• This is about helping the helpee to identify what they want.
• It is about identifying what options are open to the helpee.
Stage III: Action: “How might I help this to happen?”
• This is about supporting the helpee to look at how they might help themselves.
• It is about looking at possible outcomes
The stages do not necessarily follow this order - helping relationships do not move in a straight line! Client-centred helping is fluid and flexible – and follows the helpee – perhaps moving in a spiral, round and down. This model is useful in helping us to look at the different ‘stages’ that we might experience with a helpee as our relationship develops.
†Egan, G. (1994) The Skilled Helper: a Problem Management Approach to Helping. Pacific Grove: Brooks/Cole Publishing Company (361.323)
Overview of Skilled Helper Model, H Baker, 2009
Helper Skills: empathy; upr; congruence; making & maintaining contact; reflecting; attending(to behaviour & feeling); clarifying; paraphrasing.
Helper Skills: Stage I + identifying themes; focussing; offering alternative perspectives; sharing helper experience/feelings; helping client move to Stage III.
Helper Skills: Stage II + facilitate helpee in developing and choosing ways to help self; helping helpee to consider and evaluate their choices.