“Can We Talk? Researcher Talks About the Role of Communication in Marriages”

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Communication is an important part of marriage. Knowing your partner is important in having a healthy marriage. Communication is a necessary tool in creating bonds with your partner. After reading the article “Can We Talk? Researcher Talks about the Role of Communication in Marriages”, I find that I agree with what Nara Schoenberg has to say on the matter of communication in marriages.

My husband and I have a great marriage. We really know each other. This is mostly due to how well we communicate with each other. We have been married for three years, and we still talk about everything. We share a lot of interests, and enjoy talking about them. We also discuss our feelings, goals, and every other random topic we stumble across. If we were not able to communicate the way we do, our relationship would not be this strong.

According to Schoenberg, "In the (research) literature, as well as for my couples, communication means you're sharing and reallyy getting to know one another”. Schoenberg believes that couples who share 10 minutes of meaningful communication every day will have a stronger relationship. Based on personal experience, her hypothesis seems accurate. Every couple can benefit from meaningful communication with their partner. (Schoenberg, 2011)

Gender also plays a part in communication. There are stereotypes about how each gender communicates. Robin Lakoff, a professor at the University of California, suggests that women use less expletives and hedge more often than men (Sole, 2011). There are many other generalizations about how each gender communicates. The point is they are just that, generalizations. In other words, they may apply to large number of people, but are not true in every situation. I, for example, happen to fit Lakoff’s suggestion.

It doesn’t matter if you fit into a generalization. If you are not strong in a certain area of communication, it does not mean you should give up trying. Relationships are built on trust and...
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