Can generation gap between lovers achieve effective communication?
Someone said elements of establishing a long lasting relationship include not just love, but mutual understanding and in-depth communication. I am a talkative and confident girl, but ironically, I am not a good communicator, espeically when facing love issue. Couple months ago, I started dating with Eric. He is 27 years-old, and I am 20. The generation gap between us does not bother our relationship, but rather, I am inspired by his possession of effective communication skills. Eric is a man who teaches me love, gives me strength and helps me grow up throught daily communicaion.
The time when we were still in friendship reminds me of the Implicit Personality Theory. It states that you form perception on others by your own illogical theory that group certain personalities together. I met Eric in a friend’s birthday party. That night, he dressed up elegently. The glasses on his face and the pale skin gave him a refined look. During the party, he greeted everyone and helped the event running smooth. At the end of the party, he came to me and introduced himself, talked politly and always carried a gentle smile. To me, he is a kind and friendly big brother, and I infered that he possessed other qualities such as introvert and serious, which was a Halo Effect stated in the theory.
However, my perception was inaccurate. I made early conclusion without in-depth observation until our first date. Eric taught me how to ride a biycle. His outlook was totally different form that night. He wore a T-shirt and a short sports pant, together with a pair of slippers. He talked with a humorous tone and made dumb jokes. When talking about the hobbies, he said, “I love sports very much, and also singing karaoke!”. To me, he was just like a 17 boy but not a 27 man. My perception of his introvert and serious personalities was totally wrong. And this inspired me that to make accurate perception, you need to aviod...
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