How long will it be before you can get through your daily routine without feeling the wave of pain sweep over you, without sensing that knot in the pit of your stomach, without dwelling on what went wrong? If these are some of the questions you are asking yourself, you are not alone.
What is a broken heart?
A broken heart is a common metaphor used to describe the intense emotional pain or suffering one feels after losing a loved one, through death, divorce, breakup, moving, being rejected, or any other means. It is usually associated with losing a spouse or a loved one, although losing a parent, a child, a pet, or a close friend can also "break one's heart". The phrase refers to the physical pain one may feel in the chest as a result of the loss. Although the breaking of one’s heart is usually a metaphor, there is a condition – appropriately known as "Broken Heart Syndrome" – where a traumatizing incident triggers the brain to distribute chemicals that weaken heart tissue. A broken heart can cause such an intense reaction that many of us may feel that our lives have been completely stripped of meaning. Jobs, hobbies, and friends no longer hold any joy for us. In fact, some even experience physical pain with a tight chest, nervous stomach, or terrible insomnia.
Time heals all wounds is what we have all heard over the years, but do we really have to wait for time to heal these wounds? Absolutely not.
Possible Causes of a Broken Heart
If you want to heal a broken heart the first thing you must do is to understand what causes your heart to feel what it does (Dr. Jamie Fettig, 2005). As a cliché goes, “There would be no smoke if there’s no fire.” •Ineffective communication patterns (insufficient talk about significant things) •Sexual incompatibilities (differences in sex drives, inhibited sexual drives) •Anxiety over making and maintaining a long-term commitment •Reduced exchange of affection