Boundaries

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Boundaries. In the back of every human beings mind, lies a set of boundaries. These boundaries are instilled in us as a child by our parents and follow us until the day we die. Our personal boundaries describe who we are as a person. One person’s personal boundaries may be different from another’s. It all depends on our upbringing. Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that one creates for themselves of what the appropriate behavior for others to demonstrate around them and how they will respond when someone crosses or “steps over” the boundaries created by the mind. These include, our physical, mental, and emotional limits we establish for ourselves. They are structured on the basis of beliefs, opinions, attitudes, experiences of one’s past, and parent teaching. Personal boundaries describe who you are as an individual, outlining your likes and dislikes, and defining how close you allow others to get to your heart or if you keep them at arm’s length as to not allow them to hurt you emotionally or physically. Physical, mental, psychological, and spiritual boundaries are built on a foundation of beliefs, emotions, intuitions, and self-esteem. According to Nina Brown’s take on personal boundaries, a professor and eminent scholar in the Department of Counseling and Human Services, there are four main types of psychological boundaries. There’s soft, spongy, rigid, and flexible. A person with soft boundaries conforms to other people's boundaries. The person with this kind of boundary is easily manipulated. A person with spongy boundaries is like a combination of both soft and rigid boundaries. They allow less manipulation of their emotions than soft boundaries but more than rigid. People with spongy boundaries don’t know who or what to let in and who or what to keep out. I guess one could say they are lost in a way. A person with rigid boundaries has built a wall so to speak so nobody can get close to them either physically or emotionally. Physical,...
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