November 19, 2012
Research/Book Review Project
Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus – John Gray, Ph.D.
The main message in the book, Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus, is that men and women are so different in many ways that they might as well be from different planets. Men and women seem to fail to communicate with each other on how to understand how each other loves and expects to be loved, and that is the reason for relationship and marriage conflict.
Men and women communicate in very different ways. Men want to see the solution, they want to just get straight to the point and then be done with the situation. Women on the other hand tend to be more detail-oriented before they get to the result. Men and women are wired so differently, this is why it’s so important for us to simply communicate with each other and find out what the other person needs and wants.
Men seem to value themselves through their achievements because they fear that they may not be good enough or they may not be competent. Most women have the desire to be wanted, while men have the desire to be needed. Women tend to value themselves more through their relationships; they are afraid that they may not be worthy of love. Women want to be understood by men but often think that they are not deserving of love.
Our reactions to the opposite sex tend to be the opposite of what the other needs. Women try to change men which makes him think that he is not good enough, when all he really needs is to feel that he is needed; while men try to offer advice to women which makes them feel as if their feelings are not important because they do not simply listen. Very simply, men want to be needed and women want to be wanted.
The emotional aspect of the opposite sex plays a large role in relationships. Women tend to be much more honest with their feelings then men do. “Overwhelmed” is the word that can be used for women when it comes to emotions, but...