Being assertiveness is having a good set of communication skills which means “taking into consideration both your own rights, wishes, wants, needs and desires, as well as those of the other person. Assertiveness means encouraging others to be open and honest about their views, wishes and feelings, in order that both parties act appropriately.” Skills you need to know (2011- 2013) This statement is common in all documentation relating to the subject and forms the basis of this assignment on being assertive.
Has anyone ever suggested to you that you need to be more assertive? Or don’t let people walk all over you. For some people that is easier said than done. Children are all born assertive, during their early childhood their parents, family and the wider community have an influence on how these assertive skills will be developed or stifled. So by the time the child has reached adulthood any natural ability may have been eroded leaving the person feeling and thinking inferior to others. The Centre for Clinical Intervention CCI (2008) suggests; “assertiveness is a learned behaviour and thinking style. We are all born assertive. Think of a baby. Babies cry when they want something, they express emotion freely.” So why do some people find it hard to express themselves as an adult?
One theory is that as a child grows some may be taught “that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others, or that we shouldn't "make waves", that if someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.” Revelle College (2013) This suggests that the natural ability to be assertive and stand up for oneself is misguidedly taken from in the most impressionable years of a person’s life, only for them to have to rethink their communication skills as an adult. By this time if the adult is experiencing difficulty in expressing assertiveness other factors could be displayed such...
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