May 11, 2011
The Authoritarian Parenting Style is one of four parenting styles used to rear children. Authoritarian Parenting style is described by Feldman (2011) as “parents that are controlling, punitive, rigid, cold. Their word is law, and they value strict, unquestioning obedience……; they do not tolerate expressions of disagreement (p.251).” Because children are unable to explore their own feelings, values and opinions, they, grow up with various negative effects. Some of those effects are anxiety, low self-esteem, lack of social skills and bullying other people. The negative effects, that these children inherit, naturally follow them into their adulthood. Feldman (2011) confirms “Children of authoritarian parents tend to be withdrawn…..they are not very friendly….boys are unusually hostile (p. 251).” The parenting style we choose to raise our children is so pivotal because it will shape the traits, personality and mannerisms of our children. As parents, ultimately we want to produce Godly, respectable, successful children that will one day be an asset to society.
Children reared with an authoritarian parenting style are laden with various negative effects that produce: anxiety, low self-esteem, over-aggression in males, dependence in females, lack of social skills, and becoming a bully. Although for this paper we will be focusing primary on the negative effects of the authoritarian parenting style, it is fitting to discuss the other methods of parenting. There are four types of parenting styles and they are permissive, authoritative, uninvolved and authoritarian. The permissive parenting style is as Feldman (2011) states is a parent that “Provide lax and inconsistent feedback…..they require little from their children, and they don’t see themselves as holding much responsibility for how their children turn out. They place little or no limits or control on their children’s behavior (p. 251).” The permissive parenting style in many respects is comparable to the authoritarian parenting style because, the characteristics of the children are the same for both parenting styles. The children tend to not fare well socially, they are withdrawn. Children raised with this parenting style tend to “lack self control, are moody and are not very friendly ( Feldman.2011.).” In this parenting style, children are not given structure and limits which in turn inhibits them from adjusting to various settings. Children of permissive parents lack boundaries and sometimes infringe on others boundaries. They don’t follow rules outside of the home setting because boundaries are not declared in the home. Some of the children from these household’s sometimes-not all- grow up delinquents defying legal boundaries.
Authoritative is the parenting style proven to give children the best balance of structure and the freedom of the child to explore parameters. Authoritative parenting style is described by Feldman (2011) as “parents are firm, setting clear and consistent limits…they tend to be strict…they are loving and emotionally supportive. They also try to reason with their children….they encourage their children to be independent (p.251).” Authoritative parents provide structure, strict expectations, however, are loving and supportive of their children. They allow their children to use their reasoning skills by explaining why it is necessary to do certain task or make certain decisions. These parents give their children tools to make great decisions in future transactions of life. Children raised in this environment are “friendly, independent….they have a strong motivation to achieve (Feldman.2011)”. This parenting style takes a guiding approach to our children’s lives. The parents enable them to be independent thinkers therefore they are about to engage...