How do we benefit from having an assertive communication? Why is it so difficult to say what we think and to be coherent? Why are we manipulated in some situations? And the last question, why do we leave aside our own ideas and thoughts?
First of all, we need to consider that assertiveness is a necessity that gives us many advantages and benefits. When we are assertive our communications skills are going to improve because we will say everything openly and clearly. However, it is important to take into consideration others’ ideas and believes.
Undoubtedly, assertiveness is a great social skill that gives us amazing benefits. Because of all these benefits everyone should make an effort to develop an assertive communication. On the other hand, being an assertive person is not a simple task. Frequently, we find ourselves saying yes to everything when in reality we wanted to say no. Besides we find it hard to be able to express any kind of disagreement even though we know we are right. In addition if we are not assertive we could behave in an impolite way.
Furthermore, the purpose of being assertive is to defend our rights without hurting or causing damage to someone. From my point of view there are some reasons why I think assertiveness is necessary to socialize in a healthy and peaceful way. First, it may allow us to say what we think without fear. Second, we might be able to defend our interests. On the third place we are going to keep ourselves from being manipulated. And finally, we will increase our self-esteem respecting others’ values and rights.
Also, it is difficult to understand why we do not develop this skill even though we know all the advantages. I can think in some reasons why this is not an easy task. One of them is because it has to do with our personality and is a behavior learned since childhood.
As a consequence, if we do not see everyone else being assertive it might not be an easy skill for us to develop...