Arranged Marraiges

Some people believe in love at first sight, and others believe it takes time to love someone. In life, having a partner is a very important thing. It’s hard to form a good relationship right when you meet that certain person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. It takes time, patience, and trust to love that person. If a relationship goes well, it will eventually end in marriage. However, some cultures in the world don’t let their children to meet that special someone on their own. This is called arranged marriages. Arranged marriages have been around in parts of the Middle East and Asia as long as marriage has been itself. In the arranged marriage world, they say marriage comes first and love later. An arranged marriage is basically when the parents chose who you're partner in life will be. I think that arranged marriage is wrong and someone should put a stop to it around the whole world. One of the most important factors in a marriage is love, and without it, the marriage may not last as long as it really should. One of my family friends' parents had an arrange marriage. They are Hindu and in that religion, that's what they do. Whenever I am around them, I can see that they aren't loving one another because it is obvious. They don't act like my parents would or just a regular couple. They act as though they are just friends and they don't know much abut each other. I also watched a movie on arranged marriages and the moral of the movie was that arranged marriages don't work sometimes because the people don't really love each other, but they are just married because they have to be and are forced to be. Another reason that I think arranged marriages are bad is because I think that if you are going to marry someone, you need to be able to trust them throughout your whole life with many different things. When I am around my family friends they had an arranged marriage I can tell that they do their own thins without letting the the other one help out because they don't trust each other as much a loving couple would. They don't know each other as well as a loving couple would either, because their love was forced rather than meant to be. Another example is when I see Hindu people on the street or anywhere in public, I feel like they have less connection than other people do, because their partner is not a truly loved one. They had to marry them and that's why the connection isn't there and neither is the trust. They don't trust one another and that is one very important actor in a marriage. Lastly, I think a very important factor in a successful marriage is that they have to have compatible personalities. When they don't know much about each other it is hard for them to have the same likes and dislikes on many different things, and that can cause arguments most of the time. My family friends who had an arranged marriage always fight over the littlest things, like sometimes it would be over which food to eat, or what movie to watch. They would get into the smallest arguments over the smallest things, because of their arranged marriage and because of the fact that they don't know much about one another like another married couple would. They aren't compatible and do not have the same personalities. I read an article about arranged marriages in a magazine, and it said that 48% of girls in South Asia are forced to marry before the age of 18. That could ruin many girls' social lives and love lives as well. They won't fit into the personality of the random boy that she is supposed to marry and she won't be happy. Marriages need to consist of two people with compatible personalities who can agree on a lot of things. In conclusion, arranged marriages are very bad for the human race because in a marriage you need love and compassion to be able to be with that certain person. You also need to know them well enough to be able to trust them and live with them throughout your life. Lastly, you need to be compatible with your personalties, or else you will end up fighting all the time because you don't agree on the same things. I am against arranged marriages and I think that a person should want to mary their partner because they truly know who they are an love that person deeply.