Arguments for and Against the Practice of Arranged Marriage

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Arguments for and against the practice of Arranged Marriage

According to Encyclopædia Britannica (2009), for Indians, most marriages are arranged by family elderly based on caste, degree of cognation, financial status, education (if any), and astrology. In the article entitled “Marriage: Is love necessary?” in Little India on 2nd June 2007, Sudhir Kakar upholds the practice of arranged marriages among Indians. The article focuses on how the establishment of an arranged marriage is tantamount to the vision of love. Kakar (2007) started off by describing dream of love and how Indians are the same as the rest of human beings in the pursuit of love. He stated that arranged marriages are a norm and rarely seen as infliction by young Indians. Furthermore, he maintained that the reason Indians choose arranged marriage is because they define marriage as a family affair, with mutual values and background rather than the couples’ individual affair and they also consider parent-son and filial ties as the fundamental of family instead of the husband-wife connection. The writer then established that social manners put love marriages under substantial pressure and most of them are despondent. It is later then asserted; the vantages of arranged marriage are a young individual does not have to worry about seeking a partner, regardless of his/her personal and physical traits and that true love do exist within time, as a product of contented togetherness, not infatuation. Sardar (2008) who is in the same view, ascertained that arranged marriage gives time and space to appreciate one’s partner, instead of starting at the pitch of pheromone intensity. Kakar (2007) also stated that although there are impediments that occur, the universal vision of passionate, consummate love and the cultural reality of arranged marriages will persevere in the Indian consciousness.

In the article “Don’t ask, won’t tell” in The Hindu on 26th October 2008, Vijay Nagaswami discussed about why arranged marriages fail. The article highlighted on how non-disclosure of facts before an arranged marriage may ruin the institution. Nagaswami (2008) stated that the amount of broken arranged marriages is on the rise and the main cause is premarital non-disclosure. Dnes and Rowthorn (2002) ascertained that marital fraud takes place when deception by one spouse causes a marriage that otherwise would not have happened and among of the examples are misrepresentation of social position, concealment of facts prior to marriage and nondisclosure of religious preferences. The writer gave three typical scenarios of how arranged marriages were negatively affected due to concealment of a spouse’s facts. He scorned this behavior and stated that the families restrained extraordinary facts and when the truth reveals, they further fabricate facts and reasons and this deepen the crisis. The writer then brought up the issue of trust, stating that the main cause of non-disclosure was the fear to lose good coalition. However, when damage is done, the trust in the partner and the marriage is lost, process of re-building trust is needed and the balance of power in the union slants. Besides that, the writer also offers a solution which is prevention; avoiding concealment of any relevant facts before committing. He also suggests singlehood among Indians, saying marriage does not guarantee life-long contentment. The writer further gives elucidations so as to address consequences of non-disclosure such as being perceptive towards the faulty partner and also the act of forgiving.

Analyzing both articles critically, there are a few logical fallacies which have been committed by both writers. In the first chosen article, Kakar (2007) stated that a love marriage can turn into an arranged marriage when one or other sets of parents no longer oppose an unarranged love affair, and both sets of parents cooperate to bless the couple. This fallacy is called Begging the Question, which...
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