Adolenses and Problem
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ADOLESCENCE & PROBLEMS
Professor Ana Maria Navarro Universidad de Ciencias de la Educacion, Universidad De Navarra Adolescence is a difficult time in the lives of young people both for themselves and their educators, parents and teachers. This period is normally associated with conflict, turmoil and tension. It is common for parents to be "demythologized in this period. The mass media plays an important role in this and also the so called drive for freedom without responsibility.
Adolescents accuse adults of:
Not giving them freedom Oppression Consumerism Authoritarianism Irresponsibility Corruption in politics, - etc.
On the other hand, adults accuse adolescents of:
Irresponsibility Inconsistency Destructiveness Impracticality Utopian idealism leading nowhere
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VIEWING TODAY WITHOUT REFERENCE TO THE PAST OR THE FUTURE
The result of this situation is a crisis of authority, which would not exist if there were: mutual acceptance based on respect; confidence; trust and understanding. Who suffers most? The adult suffers most because he or she is more mature and more conscious. What do parents do? And what should they do in this conflict?
Parents Normally Do
Sermonize Speak chapters Silence Insult Hurt Moralize
Praise or criticize in general Mix truths and betray loyalties Be too frank Make future predictions Speak in front of others Ask too many questions When a 3rd party complains to support the third party Think too much or too little answer Concede a lot Make them feel dependent Distrust Develop feelings of guilt: "You have cost us". Focus on defects
Parents Should Do
Wisdom commences when followed by listening
Speak with prudence even annoyed Praise or criticize the action not the person. Speak in a constructive way Be honest and loyal with the words used Be frank but do not offend. Speak clearly because rarely are you understood Stick to the present. Speak privately Ask why? Refer to anecdotes and let the adolescent makes his
ADOLESCENCE & PROBLEMS
Professor Ana Maria Navarro Universidad de Ciencias de la Educacion, Universidad De Navarra Adolescence is a difficult time in the lives of young people both for themselves and their educators, parents and teachers. This period is normally associated with conflict, turmoil and tension. It is common for parents to be "demythologized in this period. The mass media plays an important role in this and also the so called drive for freedom without responsibility.
Adolescents accuse adults of:
Not giving them freedom Oppression Consumerism Authoritarianism Irresponsibility Corruption in politics, - etc.
On the other hand, adults accuse adolescents of:
Irresponsibility Inconsistency Destructiveness Impracticality Utopian idealism leading nowhere
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VIEWING TODAY WITHOUT REFERENCE TO THE PAST OR THE FUTURE
The result of this situation is a crisis of authority, which would not exist if there were: mutual acceptance based on respect; confidence; trust and understanding. Who suffers most? The adult suffers most because he or she is more mature and more conscious. What do parents do? And what should they do in this conflict?
Parents Normally Do
Sermonize Speak chapters Silence Insult Hurt Moralize
Praise or criticize in general Mix truths and betray loyalties Be too frank Make future predictions Speak in front of others Ask too many questions When a 3rd party complains to support the third party Think too much or too little answer Concede a lot Make them feel dependent Distrust Develop feelings of guilt: "You have cost us". Focus on defects
Parents Should Do
Wisdom commences when followed by listening
Speak with prudence even annoyed Praise or criticize the action not the person. Speak in a constructive way Be honest and loyal with the words used Be frank but do not offend. Speak clearly because rarely are you understood Stick to the present. Speak privately Ask why? Refer to anecdotes and let the adolescent makes his