The Flooding Smile
Don’t ﬂash an immediate smile when you greet
someone, as though anyone who walked into your line
of sight would be the beneﬁciary. Instead, look at the
other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their
persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile ﬂood
over your face and overﬂow into your eyes. It will
engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second
delay convinces people your ﬂooding smile is genuine
and only for them.
Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation
partner’s with sticky warm taffy. Don’t break eye
contact even after he or she has ﬁnished speaking.
When you must look away, do it ever so slowly,
reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny
string ﬁnally breaks.
( dusray key baatay suntay suntay dusro say nazray melena chahtay hai .. toh yeh trick kaam key hai ) This brazen technique packs a powerful punch. Watch
your target person even when someone else is talking.
No matter who is speaking, keep looking at the man or
woman you want to impact.
Hang by Your Teeth ( BHAIYA JI , SMILE )
Visualize a circus iron-jaw bit hanging from the frame
of every door you walk through. Take a bite and, with
it ﬁrmly between your teeth, let it swoop you to the
peak of the big top. When you hang by your teeth,
every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position.
The Big-Baby Pivot
Give everyone you meet The Big-Baby Pivot. The
instant the two of you are introduced, reward your new
acquaintance. Give the warm smile, the total-body
turn, and the undivided attention you would give a tiny
tyke who crawled up to your feet, turned a precious
face up to yours, and beamed a big toothless grin.
Pivoting 100 percent toward the new person shouts “I
think you are very, very special.”
Hello Old Friend ( DOSTANA DUDE )
When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old
friend (an old customer, an old beloved, or someone
else you had great affection for). How sad, the vicis-
situdes of life tore you two asunder. But, holy mack-
erel, now the party (the meeting, the convention) has
reunited you with your long-lost old friend!
The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain
reaction in your body from the subconscious softening
of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes—and
Limit the Fidget ( KHUJLEE MAT KARNA baat kartay samay)
Whenever your conversation really counts, let your nose
itch, your ear tingle, or your foot prickle. Do not
ﬁdget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch. And above
all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hand
motions near your face and all ﬁdgeting can give your
listener the gut feeling you’re ﬁbbing.
Hans’s Horse Sense
( ghoday key tarah bano :P hamesha pehlay Sunoo, socho fir bolo) Make it a habit to get on a dual track while talking.
Express yourself, but keep a keen eye on how your
listener is reacting to what you’re saying. Then plan
your moves accordingly.
If a horse can do it, so can a human. People will say
you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick.
You’ve got horse sense
Watch the Scene Before You Make the Scene ( be lyk RAJNIKAANTH… LOL ) Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be
ahead of time. SEE yourself walking around with Hang
by Your Teeth posture, shaking hands, smiling the
Flooding Smile, and making Sticky Eyes. HEAR your-
self chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the
pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone
is gravitating toward you. VISUALIZE yourself a Super
Somebody. Then it all happens automatically.
Make a Mood Match ( YO boyz…:P make a mood match bro..)
Before opening your mouth, take a “voice sample” of
your listener to detect his or her state of mind. Take a
“psychic photograph” of the expression to see if your
listener looks buoyant,...