The Filipino Family
The Filipino Family is the basic unit of Philippine society. Education is merely an extension of the family circle. There should be strong child-parent-school relations through cooperation, coordination and transparency. Courtship and Marriage
Every society has some kind of courtship, system which precedes marriage. Society’s mores and values change due to certain influences which impinge on our social processes. Courtship is either arranged by parent or kinsmen; or by the participating parties themselves.
1. Courtship Among Early Filipinos
Courtship, mating and divorce among early Filipinos revolved around the dowry or bride price. The dowry was the gift from the groom or his family to be given to the bride’s family presumably to compensate for the care and the cost of the upbringing of the bride. Dowry had several function:
a) It signified the good intentions of the young bridegroom in the same sense that earnest money is used in a business transaction. b) It signified the financial status of both the bride and the groom as a sort of prestige-giving conspicuous consumption. c) It also signified a welcome gesture and acceptance of the bride to the groom’s family. d) Since the dowry was usually a contribution “ambagan” of the groom’s family and his nearest kinsmen who might wield power and influence, might put pressure on the couple to make their marriage success. Compadrazco System - Follows that of the kinship arrangement, giving the “ninong” and “ninang” similar obligations and concern accorded the newly married couple. Contemporary Philippine Society
The bride-groom and his family and kin assume full responsibility for the wedding preparations, including the bride’s wedding dress, church fees, reception and almost all major expenses of the wedding. In the West
Some brides would feel socially disgraced to let the groom assume any wedding expenses except the purchase of the wedding ring. In the Philippines
Bride would be embarrassed if they had to share in the cost of the wedding. Wedding is considered as the union of two participating families. 2. Choice of a Mate
Selecting a life partner is a complex process, where cultural norms, race, nationalty ethno-linguistic factors, socio-economic and socio-political considerations play a very important role. Two types of relationship: endogamous and exogamous relationship. Endogamy - Limits the choice for marriage to those of the same race, religion, nationality, socio-economic and socio-political classes. Exogamous - Is a social arrangement where marriage is allowed only outside of a social group. Onset of modernization, esp. in the urban centers, ushered in more freedom among the young people and a wider sphere from w/c to choose a possible life partner. The term “going steady” is now a part of the vocabulary of young people. “Going Steady” it signifies that two people of the opposite sex have signified their interest and desire for one another but, for some reason, they are not yet in a position to marry. Sex is often openly discussed among the young people for as long as polite and socially accepted terms are used. Further exposure to Western Ideas and social thoughts and values through the mass media have gradually broken down cultural restrictions. Legal determinants as incest taboo is a strong deterrent in selecting a mate. In urban areas, matchmaking is done through lonely hearts clubs introduction service, pen and phone pal systems, use of newspaper personal love columns, the mail-order bride service, TV love counseling, computer matching orders. Thousands of Filipino women have the left for countries to marry foreigners as mail-order brides. This phenomenon is a reflection of the economic crisis in the country. School associations and social gatherings where young people meet are still the best methods of getting to know each other. In spite of everything else, mate selection is still very much influenced by...
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