Soc 204 Notes

Marriage • We learn by “on-the-job training,” in which being married, allows you to learn about being married • Honeymoon o Egypt ▪ The honeymoon is defined as a brief period of time in which things were beautiful, but it lasted no longer than a month o Meanings: ▪ A trip that many couples take after the wedding ← Rapoport [husband & wife] described three different types of honeymoons: • Lovers’ Nest – during the honeymoon, the couple was completely absorbed into themselves, as a couple • Perpetuum Mobile – during the honeymoon, the couple travelled a lot • Vacation Honeymoon – during the honeymoon, the couple would try to rest from all the planning [of the wedding] that preceded their honeymoon ▪ The early part of marriage [“honeymoon period”] ← A period of unusually good rapport, good relationship between the partners ← The warm, positive feelings during the good relationship allows either partner to make changes, without [or with less] difficulty o Advantage: ▪ Alone time with your new spouse o Disadvantage: ▪ Costly ▪ Most people see the honeymoon as more advantageous than disadvantageous and go on a honeymoon o Stages: ▪ Happy Honeymoon ▪ A period of unusually good rapport, having fun, enjoying both the relationship & life ▪ Disillusionment & Regret ▪ Partners begin to learn things about one another that they may not particularly like or have realized ▪ Partners realize that they are two different people, which may lead to conflict or difficulty, leading either partner to potentially consider future regret