Liberty University Exam 4 Study Guide for Psych 221

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Exam4 Study Guide
This study guide is not exhaustive, but please be familiar with the following information as you study. Be familiar with overall concepts, definitions, and also practical application. Additional space has been provided for you to take notes as you prepare for the exam. Note that exam questions will come solely from the course textbook.

1. Know the Signs of Lack of Boundaries and characteristics specific to each: Catching the Virus -Occurs when spouse doesn’t have good emotional boundaries with his/her family of origin I. When spouse comes into contact with family of origin, he/she may become: A. Depressed

B. Argumentative
C. Self-critical
D. Perfectionistic
E. Angry
F. Combative
G. Withdrawn
II. The family of origin has the power to affect the new family in a trickle-down effect. III. If your relationship with one person has the power to affect your relationships with others, you have a boundary problem.

Second Fiddle -Occurs when the spouse hasn’t completed the “leaving before cleaving” process (Gen. 2:24) I. Spouse acts as if true allegiance is to parents.
II. Leaves the other spouse and/or immediate family members despondent III. Spouses must set clear boundaries with their families of origin. IV. Not doing so has resulted in the failure of many marriages.

May I Have My Allowance, Please? Occurs when the spouse hasn’t completed the “leaving before cleaving” process (Gen. 2:24) I. Spouse acts as if true allegiance is to parents.
II. Leaves the other spouse and/or immediate family members despondent III. Spouses must set clear boundaries with their families of origin. IV. Not doing so has resulted in the failure of many marriages.

Mom, Where Are My Socks? - Perpetual Child Syndrome:
* A person is financially on his/her own, but allows his/her family of origin the perform certain life management functions * Mom and Dad are symbolically keeping their adult child from emotionally leaving home. * Often happens in friendly, loving families where things are so nice it’s hard to leave * Often, the adult child’s other relationships are dysfunctional. * For the adult child, finances are generally a problem.

Three’s a Crowd – Triangulation
Triangulation
The failure to resolve a conflict between two persons and the pulling in of a third to take sides Boundary problem common in dysfunctional families
Is used for comfort and validation by the ones who are afraid to confront each other Scripture is very serious about dealing with conflict directly (Prov. 28:23, Lev. 19:17). Never say to a third party something about someone that you do not plan to say to the person himself.

Who’s the Child Here, Anyhow? - “Some people were born to take care of their parents. They did not sign up for this duty; they inherited it” (p. 135). A. These people are known as codependents.

I. When parents are stuck in childish ways of irresponsibility, their children are unfairly forced to look out for them. II. Codependents have a difficult time establishing boundaries between themselves and their irresponsible parents. III. Good boundaries prevent resentment.

But I’m Your Brother
I. Continuation of Old Boundary Problems
A. The patterns you learn at home growing up are continued into adulthood with the same players: 1. Lack of consequences for irresponsible behavior
2. Lack of confrontation
3. Lack of limits
4. Taking responsibility for others instead of yourself 5. Giving out of compulsion and resentment
II. Adoption
B. We must come from under parental authority and put ourselves under God’s authority.

Know the Steps of Resolution of Boundary Problems with Family and their characteristics 1. Identify the symptom.
2. Identify the conflict.
3. Identify the need that drives the conflict.
4. Take in and receive the...
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