The Communication Process
A variety of styles make up the communication process, including verbal, nonverbal, and meta messages. Nonverbal messages are communicated primarily by body language and facial expressions. A meta message has an underlying meaning or an implicit message, and may be used in advertising to encourage product interest at an almost subliminal level. Communication Goals
In communication, your primary goal should be to convey your thoughts and ideas clearly and accurately, and to comprehend the thoughts and ideas articulated to you by others. Learning to communicate is a lifelong process that improves with practice. Good communication should not be about winning, losing, competing, or having the last word. A communication style that involves both the speaker and the listener creates a reciprocity that is meaningful for both individuals. Communication: The exchange of thoughts, opinions, or information in speech, writing, or signs. Gender and Communication Styles
Gender and role models influence how our personal communication style develops. Most people identify with same gender role models and emulate same gender communication patterns. The way we speak say much about us and can identify regional, ethnic, cultural differences, and even level of education. Men are often competitive in their communication patterns, especially with other men. Women are often more affiliative in their communication patterns, tending not to initiate conflict, and usually trying not to hurt the feelings of others. Women may take statements said in anger more personally then men. Affiliative: A more submissive communication style that seeks to minimize conflict. Effective Communication
In modern American life, we organize our lives on our personal digital assistants, and send and receive e-mail on our computers. The ability to clearly state thoughts and hear exactly what someone else is saying is one of the most important components of a successful relationship. Being a Good Listener
Taking the time to listen can enhance connections with others, making our lives more meaningful. Talking Just to Talk
Talking just to talk is communication without substance.
The art of good communication involves having a willing listener and a responsible communicator who keeps the conversation interesting for both individuals. Open Communication
Open communication requires establishing and maintaining a level of honest communication with a friend, spouse, or partner. In open communication, the emphasis is always on avoiding blame. Conflict Resolution
The most reliable path to conflict resolution in a relationship is open communication. Lack of interest in conflict resolution indicates lack of interest and importance associated with the value of the relationship. Foundations for Healthy Relationships
Our personal self-esteem, how we feel about ourselves, is important in all relationships. Self-Esteem
Self-esteem: Sense of self-worth; confidence in your own value as an individual. Since we are generally most comfortable with individuals similar to ourselves, couples with similarities are often more successful in long-term relationships. Your self-concept reflects your confidence and how you view yourself. Self-concept: How you view yourself, your social character, your appearance, and your intellect. If you have a high level of self-esteem and are more inner-directed, you have a well-developed sense of autonomy and will be more confident in your relationships. Inner-directed: Able to make decisions for oneself; autonomous. If you have low self-esteem and need validation from others to feel good about yourself, you may be other-directed, less autonomous, and generally lack self-confidence. Other-directed: Depend on others to make decisions for you; lacking autonomy. Gender Identity
Gender identity refers to the gender with which you most closely identify, male or female....