Commitment phobia can affect all the areas of a person’s life. They often fear committing to a relationship, a pet, a job, or anything else. These fears are exaggerations of the normal fears of making an incorrect choice of a mate or job. The phobia is born out of a fear of failure or a sense of unworthiness. They subconsciously choose to reject others before they can be snubbed. While most phobias can be treated by recurrent concise exposure to the situation feared, a therapist can’t expose a client to repeated relationships. The only way to treat this condition is to unearth and treat the root causes.
The Symptoms Of Commitment Phobia:
Hurting the partner.
Criticism of a partner.
Scared of getting noticed.
Long distance relationship.
Affairs outside the relationship.
The serial commitment phobic.
The fear of commitment to anything.
Moody and distant behavior.
Evasive and secretive manners.
Unsocial with friends and family.
The Causes Of Commitment Phobia:
A childhood associated with loss or trauma.
Parental separation, divorce, or bereavement.
Victim of abusive relationships.
Poor role models during childhood.
Fear of loss and rejection.
To avoid pain and protecting oneself from control.
The threat of being misjudged and trapped.
Fear of feeling out of control due to past experiences.
Anxiety and refusal to plan about the future.
Treatment And Help For Commitment Phobia:
The person should be ready to seek help and willing to work with a therapist. The therapist or counselor will determine if the problem is a phobia or personality disorder. Work with the counselor to find out the trigger of the problem. Therapy to understand what commitment means to the individual. Talk therapy and counseling to reduce stress in life.
Taking steps to resolve conflicts and unanswered emotions.
Mood stabilizing medications for extreme forms of phobia.